Yes, "your happiness means very much to me" is better.
When would you bring up the elephant? I don't want to upset d15 unnecessarily.
Agreed that I don't own the divorce, nor was it 100% my wife's fault (and she is a fault finder!), rather, it was the interaction between us. I am only rarely a fault finder/blamer, finding attributing fault and blame vindictive and unconstructive.
Yes, I'd leave the hypothetical lousy M if d15 were not hurt by doing so. I stayed in the M out of fear, out of wanting to avoid conflict, out of loving the house and the situation here, out of a sense of duty (I promised, after all, for better or worse).
I think my d15 finds me weird and not easy to be with sometimes. I imagine w has influenced d15's opinion of me, what with all she says (I got mad at W this morning, btw, after she put down my college
My fear is of being abandoned. I am alone too d&&n much.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
