I need all the help i can get

[melissag]

Just feel really low. Like I've been used for shoes and clothes and now she has them I can just disappear again.

Don't do that to yourself. Trust me, I have and still do, and it feels awful!

You don't have any idea what she is thinking. Don't make it worse on yourself by assuming the worst.

Look at the positive. You had a bit of time with her that was easy and fun. Let her have that fresh in her mind. Don't give her any reason to think negatively about you instead.

I sooooo know how you feel, R. And we ALL do it. We see some bit of progress, and we get too excited about it, and we end up with all these expectations (unreasonable ones, at that) and then it is crushing when they are disappointed.

You just focus on you. When your W comes back around, make sure every interaction is a good one. In the meantime, take care of yourself and be the man you want to be.

You're OK. Just pick yourself off, dust yourself off, and keep putting one foot in front of the other.