Cancer was 9 years ago, kids are 9,14. My step kids are 19 and 24.

We've been married 14 years.

Eldest is ok, she's in her own apartment and visits regularly

19yo SS lives with me full time. He's as ok as he'll be, he's always had emotional issues but he's calmed down quite a bit the past few months.

Younger kids are doing well. We worked a lot together t make sure they'd be ok and

I talk with them about stuff. They're ok…they obviously want us back together but they're functioning at school and playing week with friends.

Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.