But I can't help but think that she's doing EVERYTHING in her power to emotionally distance herself from me so she won't feel as bad about tearing the family apart.
I think that's pretty common. If your W wants out she likely doesn't want to face what she's doing to you or your kids. A lot of WAS seem to literally run away from problems in the marriage and then also don't want to face the damage that has done to their LBS or the kids.
The one that gets me the most is the idea that "the kids will get over it in time". That's totally wrong but it's a lie that most WAS tell themselves to make leaving easier for them.
It actually disgusts me. The more time that goes by, the less respect I have for her as a person. I won't end the M because of our kids. I can get over this in time if she shows an honest and genuine commitment to working toward reconcilation.
Yesterday, she may have been "probing" a little bit to see if I was warming up to the idea that our marriage is actually over. Obviously she noticed that I have seemed happier.
She's not dumb. She knows if she files for divorce, it will cost money. She knows that if she files for divorce, she really doesn't have any grounds for it (not wanting to be married isn't grounds for divorce in our state). So her only hope is that I will agree to a dissolution. Which simply won't happen unless she just turns into a trainwreck who is having an affair or something that will push us towards divorce.
Again, it would make me sad for her if that is the truth.
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
