I like the way PM puts it... RIGHT NOW, for now! and as he says, you deserve to be treated with respect. THIS was very hard for me to do. I too needed to gain respect. It starts with accepting that WE deserve respect. I was scared to do this, fearing that it might push h away even further. To disobey his demands... I finally took a dose of OH WELL, lets see how this goes... and to my surprize he respected me (after much kicking and stomping). He respects me now and doesn't behave the same on those issues. Now I am learning that he needs to respect our 20 year relationship a bit more than what he does (he assumes it will always BE HERE). ... the way I understand to do this, is for me to back off, and allow him to move forward. Let him "save" the relationship... not me! Let him do the work... Lets see if he does.
I deserve to know.
Wouldn't you like to know .... don't u deserve to know what she will do if you STAND UP? will the whole relationship fall out?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
