I'm in, wife's out

[Scorp7]

But I can't help but think that she's doing EVERYTHING in her power to emotionally distance herself from me so she won't feel as bad about tearing the family apart.

I think that's pretty common. If your W wants out she likely doesn't want to face what she's doing to you or your kids. A lot of WAS seem to literally run away from problems in the marriage and then also don't want to face the damage that has done to their LBS or the kids.

The one that gets me the most is the idea that "the kids will get over it in time". That's totally wrong but it's a lie that most WAS tell themselves to make leaving easier for them.