I read "Getting past what you'll never get over" by John Westfall. It had some helpful points. I think he had too many comparitives to his own life but you could check it out. I read that while detaching just to feel like I could if I need to.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10