I can see why you see that as confusing but you can still do what you want, take control of what you do and not be confusing.

About going out to lunch, reframe it so it comes from you: No MIL, I have plans for today. Enjoy your lunch.

About skyping, why put yourself through that. "No H, you and MIL enjoy your time talking with (whoever)."

If you want to continue a R with them, you can skype with them.

Don't try to figure out why he's doing what he's doing. Just be sure of why you're doing what you're doing.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss