Just wanted to say something else about the physical affection.

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Im really struggling with the lack of affection. I am a big hugger, and we used to kiss and touch at every chance.

I haven't had any physical contact from her in weeks and its like I'm going through withdrawal symptoms.

I would do anything for a hug or a kiss. It would just make me feel human again.


Can you think of some characteristic that some people have that can really irritate you? Maybe irritate isn't the right word....more like a big turn off?

Take for an example.....a big talker. I mean someone who never shuts their mouth...and wants to be in your face while they talk. You just want to escape, right? Well, that's how the WAW feels when her LBH is wanting that touchy-feely stuff. In most cases I've known, it turns the WAW off big time. And even if the woman who could tolerate a little hugging, then the LBH would tend to think things were getting better b/c she let him hug her.

I realize this doesn't help your feelings, but maybe it will help you be more informed about how it affects the WAW. A WAW usually doesn't speak to the LBH in his love language b/c she ain't feeling the love.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!