I spoke with W this morning and told her that I knew that she had been smoking for years, that many others knew and that she lied to me about it for years and asked others (including my D's) to do the same. its not the act iteself but what the act and the cover up symbolized that helped me decide it was time for next steps.
It seems significant that she told others but not you. Was there reason for her to be concerned about your response?
Maybe it was just the straw that broke the camel's back for you.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
