While my sitch is very different, you need to see a L ASAP. If you care about YOU, then you need to do this. Remember, first take care of YOURSELF. Consulting a lawyer will at leat give you options and will not let her keep all control in her field. Knowledge is indeed power.
BTW, two weeks into my current sitch and I can honestly say that while it hurts, I can start thinking about a few other things, and I that pit in my stomach is no longer a constant thing. It gets better, just hang in there...
