o we are both parents, I said, and expect 50/50 custody. It turns out that after 16 there is no custody, and the child is free to decide themselves. Child support is expected for full time students up to the age of 21. I don't like this no custody thing.
Why do you say you don't like the no custody thing? Do you fear you will not spend time with your daughter?
If your relationship with your daughter improves, she will want to spend just as much time with you as with her mom. And the wonderful part is you will know it's not the law in forcing it, but her own choice.
Now that you've kind of broken the ice by having the D talk with your W and she knows you aren't fighting it........she should have no reason to act like a horse's behind.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!