own buz 22:mediation to reconcilliation, hopefully

[KenF]

your friend is correct. and drunkeness is a lame excuse for bad behavior.

yes, we do things when drunk that we shouldnt do. but WE do them. and therefore it is a reflection of who we are. even when drunk we are responsible for our actions.

whatever drunken behavior you did, it was you. no one else.

what you do is who you are.


your 180 shouldnt just be that you dont continue to explain, although that's fine. but to apologize without making excuses.

your 180 should be to fully accept responsibility for your behavior (drunken or sober) and live with the consequences without making excuses. it was your choice to drink more than you can handle. it was your choice to do whatever you did while drunk.


one theme that runs through your threads is your attempts to avoid accepting responsibility for your actions and choices. or for your role in the demise of your relationship.

for instance, you'll say "Its possible that I "may" be" and "I agree I am likely trying to" by throwing in "possible" or "likely" it implies you dont fully accept responsibility for your own actions.

instead, you should say "yes i do this..." - learn to accept your responsibility, regardless of how ugly or painful it is to recognize. then either change the behavior or accept it, but dont make excuses.