I would really like to see you stop insulting yourself Mel.
You're not a moron, and claiming to be one doesn't give you a pass. No one here's a moron, and this stuff is hard to learn but necessary. I know you don't think you're a moron, and you're trying to be cute. Please just square your shoulders and start practicing basic skills of detachment.
I suggest this to a lot of people. If you can get your hands on a copy of Pia Mellody's CD set on Boundaries, there's a great visual of how you have a conversation with someone where you keep your identity intact regardless of what the other person is spewing. That helped me a lot, and I think it would help you.
Skill #1 to try, just as one step. When he emails you something, look for the nugget of relevant information and evaluate the rest for whether you need to learn something from it or disregard it. And when you successfully disregard the useless or incorrect part and go on with your day, celebrate that. Record it or journal it somehow to reinforce your learning.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
