Georgia, I would not initiate any frequent touches or "s" w/him now because he's out to lunch. It sounds like you may have attempted to pretzel yourself to please him and truly weren't being true to yourself when doing the 180's when he was at home. Step back, leave him alone and only contact him about the kids or emergencies. He needs to be alone and work on himself.
If he calls, don't be as quick to pick up the phone on text him. Take your time responding back to him and the hardest part is detaching. You've got to let him go in order for him to grow up. While he's attempting to grow up, it's a good time for you to grow as well. I know it's difficult when things look bleak, but you can do this and whatever changes you make, you make them for you, i.e., not to win him back.
Have you been check out by a doctor recently? If not, you may want to consider making an appointment. Why? Because you don't know where he's been and we don't want to discover that you've contracted something from him. If, by chance, sex comes up again, make sure you are protected.
Now, I'd like for you to sit down and make a list of those projects and hobbies that you've put off doing for a long time and let's see which ones you can begin to work on to help take your mind off of your nutty buddy.
No matter what happens...you are going to be just fine.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
