Like BA and everyone else here, my D20 did the same thing. She didn't stop doing it until after she went to college. Plus it helped that I turned off the DirecTv receiver in her room when she left. I left her be, but I had one rule that I insisted upon: No eating dinner in her room. She balked for a bit, but then she calmed down. She told me at Christmas that she was glad I did. So... for what it's worth.
I tried to do the same thing at her age. But I grew up in a 1100 SF cape cod and shared a bedroom with my sister. We only had one bathroom, so even that was a shared activity. I would meet my BFF somewhere in between our 2 houses, and we'd sit on a street corner for HOURS. And I mean hours. It was often dark. So see this as the normal behavior it is right now. It will change soon enough.
It definitely doesn't make you a bad mom!
Just in case you need to hear this out loud, teenagers are tough! My typically good kid knew which buttons to push, and we spent pretty much her entire senior year engaged in battles. It was so bad that I didn't cry when I dropped her off at school in NY. We really both needed her to leave. Now things are good.
Hang in there!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
