I know I'm being a moron right now . . . I really am trying not to.
I am hoping that with more detachment, I can get this stuff and put it to work for me.
I don't think I posted much of H's hateful crap. A lot of it is the scowling, glaring, the tone of voice he uses when he speaks to me. The texts about the kids or the finances or whatever business is at hand are (since I filed) often laced with biting sarcasm and snide remarks. Usually not outright offensive, but more in a P/A way.
I know it's not the "correct" answer to your question, but right now my answer is - Yes! It does matter that my H is being hateful. I will say I am starting to see how I have always allowed him to manipulate my emotions like this, though. And I know I need to stop, because he isn't going to no matter how much I blame him.
I'm not trying to debate your point - I know it is valid. I'm just being honest that right now I am still in emotional idiot mode and find myself wanting to blame my H because I am not sure I can overcome my emotions enough to really take control in this way. I'm working on it.
I do reread my threads and particular posts . . . I know I have a lot yet to do and learn. Sometimes it comes later rather than sooner.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
