I can confirm that with Bond based on my experiences so far. But you have to TRULY detach. Learn the 180's forward and backwards and practice them every minute of every day (not just when you're around your W).
Again, don't act like you're moving on with your life, actually get on with your life (that doesn't necessarily mean moving on with your life w/o your W). Focus on things you can control and find joy in. For myself, it was my kids. But also doing things I did before I met my wife. Working out. Spending time and doing stuff with friends. Diving back into work at full force. Just to name a few.
As Bond said, things like that are all positives. And you have to focus on those things every day. It's amazing what it will do for your attitude when you're not constantly thinking about your WAS. Obviously you'll still think about them. You'll do it a lot. There probably isn't 10 minutes that go by that I don't think about my W and M. But 3 weeks ago, I thought about her for 9 minutes out of 10. 2 weeks ago I thought about her 7 minutes out of 10. Now, I probably only think about her every 2-3 minutes out of 10. And that's a healthy level (for me at least).
You can't let it consume you. It's hard to do but you have to WORK to not let it consume you. You and only you can make that change and it won't happen by accident. It takes work and more willpower than you've probably ever had to muster.
Like Bond said, keep the positives going!
Me: 33 W: 27 S: 5 D: 2 Bomb: 1/2/14 First Separation: 1/25/14 MC: 2/7/14 (one time only) Moved Back in: 3/31/14 W says she wants a divorce and moves out: 7/26/14 Appt to sign dissolution: 12/30/14
