I've also come to realize that children shouldn't usurp the needs of the marriage.
This is so true. If only my H and I realized this sooner. I fully admit that we had a lot on our plate and our M came dead last. I now realize that our M was doomed because you need your M to be strong to keep everything else going. I kept thinking that if we could just push through my H's job change and those challenging first years with the kids, we would refocus on M. I just thought that we would recover at some point.
When my H changed companies, his goal was to work really hard to set up a business that would allow him more time in the evening and on weekends to spend with the family. We went through two years of my H working every minute of every day. He has finally set everything up exactly how we had hoped. Yet our family is completely broken because we stopped taking care of each other and became resentful. It svcks. We should be enjoying this time together, celebrating our accomplishments and family.
