Sweet Melissa...(do you know that Allman Bros song? I always think of it when I'm reading your thread. Wonderful memories.)

Anyway...

"I didn't hire the most aggressive D attorney in town. (My H likes to exaggerate to "make a point.")"

Thanks for the correction but does it matter?

I'll go back and reread your posts to see what I missed. But again, does it matter if he's being hateful? It won't when you have control of you. Throughout our lives people aren't going to treat us just the way we want them too. But we have a choice as to how we treat people and exercising that choice can improve our lives tremendously.

Again, read Ad's post, it's the heart of this.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss