I wanted to add that this is key: part of being an amazing mommy is making sure that I take care of myself.

You can't be an amazing anything without this but we try, don't we.

I've also come to realize that children shouldn't usurp the needs of the marriage. It's a difficult balancing act because we all have to be so "busy" but if we believe the best place for children to be raised is in an intact, healthy family we have to work to make that happen.

I know I became 70% mother and 30% wife. Kids do require and deserve a lot of attention in the first years, it's almost an impossible task.

Just musing.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss