Separated and on a Walk

[melissag]

Paul, I think it is great that you are thinking about this from all sides, but I had to mention this:

I have to admit that I wanted to save this M with the conditions that she was able to come back and build a new life with me based on MY idea of a good life (affection, intimacy, acceptance). I'm forcing my views into this and trying o mold W into something she isn't. all the while complaining that I am unhappy with the status quo and want change.

In theory this is true, but I just wanted to point out that wanting affection, acceptance and intimacy in a M is not unreasonable. I hope that if your W doesn't come around, you will find that from someone else. Everyone deserves that.