New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Well my W has found a place to move to and is planning on moving in the next few weeks.
We had a discussion about this last night where she brought up how we would split time for the kids. Her general point was that she was happy with 50/50 but indicated that i would have to change my working conditions to suit that, either change jobs or go part time. I kind of didnt do too well with this because when they are with me it will be up to me to decide how i do things. She stated that unless i drop them off and pick them up from school each day it wont work, obviously to start with that would be the first thing i would do but if later down the line i wanted to use parents/family to pick up/drop off for an occasional hour until i finish work that is what i will do. She didnt take kindly to this and is speaking to a solicitor today. She has decided to end this marriage and i will not let her dictate to me how i bring up our children whilst they are with me! All i want is what is best for the children and regardless of her snide comments about the things i do i will continue to be the best dad i can be. I didnt want to get into a full on discussion on this so i calmly removed myself before saying something i would later regret.
She did later on last night come back for round two and i did bite. I am fully aware of the DB techniques but (for me at least) there is sometimes you just have to stand up and be a man, i wont allow her to put all the blame on me for where we are and paint me out as some kind of monster.
Maybe me standing up for myself wasnt all a bad thing, she texted me this morning saying she knows its hard but its the right decision to make and its not fair on me or the kids to keep living like this and its no life as we are, we all deserve happiness. She also said that she doesnt plan on any 'grey clouds' and really hopes we can stay friends through it all and hopes i have a great day today, a nice text and i do appreciate her sending it.
As always i will give her the benefit of the doubt and i know from my side there wont be any funny business, it was a welcome text and hopefully thats the way we can move forward.
I would be lying if i said i was happy with all of this, i am not i am a mess but aim to pick myself up, dust off and get back on with my life. Its funny as i know there is nothing i can do about it and maybe if i was in a better place it wouldnt affect me, but knowing what she is saying about me to her family and friends really [censored]! I am sure when i have dusted myself off i can move it out of my mind.

Cheers H