Your job now is to plant the seed of doubt that maybe leaving isn't what she wants to do. You have six months to work with which is pretty substantial to make and have changes noticed. Sure, you won't be out of the woods then but you could be well on your way to reconciling.
Barrybran this is what I want to do. She told me she has noticed changes, but she said that no matter what happens these are not the reason to stay. The only way she will be convinced to stay is if her emotions towards me change. And she made it abundantly clear that she believes that there is no way for that to happen. In other words, she does not want to try to change her emotions.
I am not going to give up the fight of course, I'm going to keep fighting this until a divorce is finalized or until we find a way to get back together.
Sounds like my wife about six weeks ago. You know what? Since then, she hasn't mentioned leaving, hasn't mentioned being "done" and she's talked about buying a car, my brother's wedding next year and the prospect of buying a house together one day. As the rules say, believe nothing you hear, but hearing your wife talk about a future event with you in it is more promising than talking about future events without you in it.
The parts I have highlighted have been heard by many a LBS. You'll hear them a few more times yet but don't be discouraged. Stick to the rules, keep the changes up and she'll stop saying things like this. When she does, it's progress. Not a resolution, just progress. Your goal right now is not to reconcile, it's to notice the first positive change in your wife's behaviour towards you. As cliched as you'll discover, it's baby steps. Plant that seed of doubt.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
