Your job now is to plant the seed of doubt that maybe leaving isn't what she wants to do. You have six months to work with which is pretty substantial to make and have changes noticed. Sure, you won't be out of the woods then but you could be well on your way to reconciling.
Barrybran this is what I want to do. She told me she has noticed changes, but she said that no matter what happens these are not the reason to stay. The only way she will be convinced to stay is if her emotions towards me change. And she made it abundantly clear that she believes that there is no way for that to happen. In other words, she does not want to try to change her emotions.
I am not going to give up the fight of course, I'm going to keep fighting this until a divorce is finalized or until we find a way to get back together.
Originally Posted By: melissag
You are not lacking in strength and courage.
You can do this.
Barry is right, you have several months to show her that she would be a fool to leave you. So get to work on your 180s and your GAL. And make sure you read Sandi's rules every day until you have committed them to memory. (And then once in a while to refresh.)
Melissag thank you. Sometimes it's good to hear from someone that you have strength. At times it feels hopeless, and then I look at my wife and child and believe that if this becomes a M again, a loving R, then this is the only happiness in life that I want.
And Cnfused, thank you for the prayer. I actually shed a few tears reading it, because this is exactly what I want to say. Your words in that prayer are inspired. Thank you for sharing it with me.
Thank you guys. Once more you gave me the strength to go at it one more day, one more time, hopefully for as long as I need to.
