update, so i had a great time with the kids this weekend. I messaged my wife several times via facebook.. which i seldom ever did at all... a little out of the ordinary for me. i just sent her photos of the kids playing/helping in the garden, then at the kids museum we went to doing fun stuff.
i dont know.. shes been responsive.. but distant. not negative.. but not exactly welcoming.. still kind of tip toeing.. but certainly a massive step in a positive direction.
so i took the kids home.. hung out for a bit.. chit chatted about some logistical stuff this week.. like father daughter dance next week. her upcoming medical appointments etc.. and then things kind of died out... i started to feel awkward and uncomfortable, so i gave the kids hugs and said good bye.
on the drive home i realized i didnt have anything to do at all for the entire evening. i mean i could do laundry.. or go to the gym.. so i decided to push my luck a little bit, I called my wife and asked her if she wanted to go out and do something. She suggested bowling. So we took the kids bowling, had a great time.. then went out for dinner at our favorite restaurant. this was awesome! i kept my cool. but i was lit up like a christmas tree. this never ever ever would have happened even a couple weeks ago.
So after getting back we talked briefly about her installing/playing the scrabble game with me on her phone.. because ive been having fun with it. she indicated she tried to get me to play it before but i cold shouldered her. i kind of shrugged and said.. yeah.. ive made a lot of jerk moves. she shrugged and said .... yeah.. and that was that.. i hugged the kids and said good bye.
this is big progress.. lots of goal indicators flying. we're talking, we're doing stuff together.. albeit with the kids.. we're having a good time. we're sort of agreeing to play a game together. theyre all little things.. but its a lot different than it has been.
i guess she had spoken to my mom, theyre going to go out on wednesday and talk a bit. i told my mom.. look i have all kinds of things for you to read, all kinds of things for you to say.. but at the end of the day.. i dont want you to strain any relationship you have with her. just listen, say whatever you want. do your thing.. if it comes across as contrived it hurts everyone.
