Limbo is the new normal

[slow_it_down]

I couldn't agree more Confluences.
I had to hop back on again tonight to share another interesting development.

I've already mentioned that my H's job was a huge problem for us. Two other big issues revolved around his use of money (telling me he had none to contribute but then buying a boat or car), and his house which I have always hated for many reasons, but most recently because it's always his back up plan when he moves in and out. I always thought in my head that in order to work things out he'd need to commit to joining our finances and to getting rid of the back up plan house.

Tonight when my H was over visiting our son he was especially chatty, following me around my house. He told me what he made for dinner, what he watched on TV, about a funny movie, on and on. It reminded me of the first lunch we had after being separated all summer.

Anyways, back to my story about the money and house. He mentioned he wasn't sure what to do about his finances while he's gone and asked if it would be something I would be interested in doing for him while he was away training for a few months. This would involve adding me to his accounts. Plus he said he'll be calling a company about renting out his house while he's out of state. He also mentioned he might suspend his car insurance and just park it in my carport for a few months. What the what? He could easily park it at work or a friends place. Where did this sudden decision to rely completely on me come from?

I didn't even ask out loud and somehow all the things I'm holding out hope for are just falling into place. I don't see this saga ending anytime soon, but I think I can safely say he isn't pursuing the malicious $10k court battle he was threatening last week. For now I'm just treating him (in my heart and mind) like a friend and doing my best to help him bond with our son. Only time will tell if his crappy behavior over the past few years was a symptom of depression/mlc or his true self. He seems to be in great spirits so we'll see if this translates into him putting more energy back into our relationship again.