Remember our caution to you about H coming right at you out of his foxhole? See for what it truly was...a desperate move on his part.
As for your stinking thinking about H's perception of you as the "evil" one for filing, I ask you...why do you give a flying f*ck about his FAULTY perception if you know your own truth? When one stands with full-confidence in their own truth, nothing can knock you over. Don't give away your own personal power. Own it!
'My H suddenly turned a corner and said that he is not immune to the fact that he is bitching about betrayal when he is the one who left, turned my life upside down and took away the future I thought I had. He said he recognizes that we have both been tremendously hurt in the R and he knows he has hurt me a lot, but that doesn't make him less angry about my betrayal.'
Using the STFU and KISS principles, I would have said to H:
"Thank you for sharing this. I can see how you would look at it in that way. I am sorry that you feel this way. It is my wish that you'll find some peace at some point. Hope you have a good evening."
This way, H will have ZERO ammo to counter you. You're validating him, yet not agreeing with him. Nothing about explaining your view or defending yourself. See?
