I'm sorry you find yourself here. You will get fantastic advice from a warm and honest group. The best advice I can give is to detach, detach, detach! It's not easy, but when your spouse is acting like someone you don't know, it's much easier.
Take care of yourself :-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer