So you're dating......good for you!

[CallaghanClown]

Thanks job. I know there is no point in wallowing on the 'don't knows'. I'll never really know what's going on.

I had a chat with him today about upsetting the kids. I explained very clearly and calmly that he would not be coming into our home and upsetting our kids ever again. This is their safe zone and it will stay that way. I told him I'll protect them because me and the kids come first. I will forever care for him and help him, but me and the kids come first. I told him that he could no longer hurt me except by hurting my kids and that won't happen again.

I didn't want to do this but I told him he HAD TO get help. Told him I would no longer continue this way. Told him that the kids deserved their dad back. He said he'd organise help this week. I talked a little about how much it's helped me and told him that it can be uncomfortable at first but that it's worth it. By then he was crying and I asked if he was comfortable with the life he has now and he replied "no I hate it". So at least therapy should help him live life better......

I was tempted to offer to take him to an Al Anon meeting but decided against it.

When I returned this evening he was ironing the kids clothes and had cleaned the kitchen.......

I'm finding it really hard not admitting to him I know about OW but I have to remember that it's he needs to out himself.