I'm going to suggest that you go a little bit dim on him. Yes, you need to communicate w/him when it's about the kids, emergencies and finances...but for him to just chit chat or as they say shoot the breeze, I wouldn't be readily available all of the time. He wants to be on his own, so he needs to learn to entertain himself. It's funny how they will tell you about things, but do not ask them about what's going on w/them. In his mind, you are mom to his child.
If he catches you and chit chats, give him 10-15 minutes and then tell him you have to go. There's no reason you need to be there for him all of the time. Unless I'm mistaken, he wouldn't do it for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
