I agree w/25 that the stigma of divorce is mostly evaporated. So many people are getting them done that people don't blink an eye at the word much any longer.
You are only a victim if you choose to view yourself that way. However, to stand up and do what is right for you and your children is being a survivor. You are not a failure and you aren't the one that walked away....he did.
Start looking at your glass as half full rather than half empty. Start looking around you and your environment for the positives and you'll begin to see that the world is waiting to embrace you for who you are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
