So, most of the post before that last one involved things you would require of H in order for your behavior to be different: him to leave you alone, him to act consistent, him to let you off his roller coaster. All of your thoughts and feelings belong to you, not him. That's what I'm trying to help you see. You control your thoughts. You decide to think he's silly or horrible or mean and your feelings follow. In survival mode: take what facts come to you and take appropriate action that is best for yourself and your kids, and try to stop focusing on how he's acting and how outrageous you think it is.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
