I've noticed my ex acting strange/weird/different lately. She seems more friendly and I'm constantly telling myself it's nothing. I go about my days as usual. Her texts are friendlier and she calls a bit more. She doesn't call for no reason though. Usually she needs to ask something. We've had a few family dinners as well.
When I'm out she will ask who I'm out with and what I'm doing. I try very hard to not answer her but she sorta persists so ill just come clean. She did that this morning. She called me this morning to tell me when she wanted me to pick up our son. Then she asked about my night. I told her I stayed at a buddy's house and I wouldn't be able to pick him up right away. I told her I'd pick him up at around 1 because I wanted to get some groceries before getting him. She then said she would come with me. She didnt even need groceries.
Tonight was especially weird. She was out with her friend for her friend's bday. No biggie, I thought I'd have a whole night of no contact(haha, that's me going dim). Her friend posted a pic of the 2 of them out so I gave it a quick "like". That same friend sent me a friend request tonight. I have no clue why she would do that tonight instead of years ago. Anyway, my ex texts me at 2am and asks if I want to grab a late night snack(we always used to go to the diner down the street). I say sure why not. So I pick her up and she starts talking about her night and all the annoying guys she ran into and how her best friend isn't really her best friend anymore and other random stuff. I just listen and listen. So we get to the diner and order food. Then she flat out asks if I've slept with anybody. I dodge the question a few times but she eventually got the answer out of me. Which is a no. She thought I slept around and maybe I should've let her think that but I just wanted to be honest. She thinks im holding on to her more than i actually am and that sleeping around somehow proves to her that ive moved on. I'll just ignore that comment from her. She also asked another weird random question. She asked how important looks are to guys. She said it was because guys kept telling her how pretty she is.
Anyway, I have no clue why she is doing these things with me or why she's asking me these questions if she has mr. Cool guy. I just know I'm fine being around her and I'm not an emotional mess. I think I'm getting used to this roller coaster ride that it doesn't affect me as much. I might not have to get off, haha.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
I would normally say without a doubt that, ya I want to be friends(obviously I want more, but for now friendship seems doable). It makes sense doesnt it? But after reading what you wrote it makes me second guess a little. I guess that's part of the process.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
Maybe, she sees you as someone she can count on and trust, and she spends time with you and eventually realizes that you are the one she wants to be with.
OR
She is eating cake and you just keep adding the icing. She gets to have the parts of you she wants, while getting the rest of what she needs from the OM (or another OM, if that OM fades out of the picture).
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
Maybe, she sees you as someone she can count on and trust, and she spends time with you and eventually realizes that you are the one she wants to be with.
OR
She is eating cake and you just keep adding the icing. She gets to have the parts of you she wants, while getting the rest of what she needs from the OM (or another OM, if that OM fades out of the picture).
I really do understand that. It worked out the first way the last time.
And here's the thing, it's no secret that I have that anger part inside of me still. That anger wants to pull douche bag moves to become that wedge. Will it work? Who knows, but I know no guy with an ounce of self respect would tolerate my ex hanging out with me as much as she does. I know that is an awful thing for me to do, but sometimes the stuff I do with her is genuine family time. Hanging out last night wasn't that though.
I'm sure once enough time goes by ill be in a different place than I am now.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
