Separated and on a Walk

[labug]

Hey Paul, you've had a quite an eventful couple of days. YOu must be exhausted.

Sounds like some decisions have been made.

Why do you think your W hid her smoking from you?

And about this:

I absolutely do not want this (I love being a H), but I will not be lied to and bad mouthed to my kids and my community, by someone who claims to care for me.

Please don't misunderstand, I'm not saying you shouldn't D (or that you should) but D should be a clear choice, not a reaction. Can you reframe your words so that it keeps you in the center and in control of you?

Something like "I've assessed my current R with my w and my needs. I can best take care of me and my family by filing for D."

These may seem like little things but they keep you out of the "she made me do it territory."