CC, I'm very sorry about what happened in front of your children. Sometimes I think the crisis person is just so desperate to do anything to make a point that they don't care about how it looks or feels to others. By the time they are in crisis, their empathy chip is broken into bits, but I can assure you that if you had asked him how he would have felt had you done the exact same thing he had done, his comment would have been that he wouldn't have liked it.
Maybe in his mind he had to do the "drama king" departure to prove to you and also to himself that he was packing up and going. We will never truly know what runs through their minds, but my guess it's not pretty. It's all jumbled up and the wires are misfiring.
Please try to calm your imagination down. I seriously doubt that they will be doing anything super special today for the ow's birthday. It's nice of you to wish her cyber well wishes on her special day.
Please take care of yourself and your children. Your h is on his own journey and no one knows where it will take him nor how long it will take...but in the meantime, be yourself, pamper yourself and live your life to the fullest.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
