I think you calling her out on her b!tching and not responding to all those TM paid off. Most importantly, she saw her H going to a job. Sounds to me like you were seeing a little respect when you got home.

That's how it works with women. If that keep b!tching and won't shut up, you have to put them in their place (so to speak) just as you would anyone else. If it really is b!tching she's doing.....I'm not so sure I would validate, but if she has some concerns, then sure. If she is just ragging on you, then it just needs to be shut down quickly. The longer a man puts up with a woman hammering him, the more she will disrespect him. By telling her it is unacceptable and you will not continue, you are standing up to her. She may act a little ticked at the moment, but she will respect you as long as you keep your dialog respectful to her.

Good job! I hope you will like your new place of employment.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!