OMG! Our stories are so similar. My husband is even a cop too!! We have had a huge amount of change in the past 3 years too. We moved to Australia from Ireland in 2010, (we already had our daughters), then we both got new jobs, we got engaged and married, he joined the police force, we had our son, and then bought a house a year ago. I think that was it for him, I know the mortgage has stressed him out. But he never once said 'hey, we need to talk' or 'I'm unhappy'. I thought we had a normal happy marriage, with normal marital stresses. I'm not naive, I knew it wasn't great, but I thought soon the kids will be at school, we'll save money on childcare, things will settle. I guess not.
