Thing I've learned. Now what?

[MrBond]

"She even said that she went through depression too, but she pulled herself out of it on her own so she saw no reason why I couldn't. I know this isn't completely true, because I know her family and teachers intervened."

I notice you do alot of mindreading for her. Even if you have friends around you, it is still UP TO YOU to get out of depression. She's correct in this.

"She still sees that guy that I was 2 years ago. She showed shock that I got a dog after she moved out. Why? Because the me of 2 years ago probably wouldn't have."

She said that?

"Our marriage councilor was mystified as to why she was divorcing me when she admitted that I had become a better parenting partner, and that my mood had improved. As my therapist put it, she has her defenses up."

Your MC isn't very good. If she were, she would understand that just because YOU change doesn't make the other person suddenly want to rush back into your arms.

"I will say that her getting a laptop didn't help. Even when she got her first laptop years ago all she would do is sit on the couch and browse the web. I think technology has not helped marriages, but I also think that things like that may be just a symptom of bigger issues."

You blameshift alot. A laptop doesn't stop marriages. That was just an escape for her. Same as having OM or another hobby.

"I guess one of the reasons I've always felt a little hopeless is that I don't feel like I can compete with her friends."

Why? That's just your low self esteem talking. What have you been doing to improve that?

"They're good times, I'm bad times. Of course now I hardly see her so what do you do? All I can do now is GAL and try to move on I guess."

You put yourself down alot. You can be a better person IF you choose to.