Heather, I'm sorry I wasn't around to be here for you....but, I don't think he's spinning at all. In fact, I think he's quite the sane one right now w/respect to your daughter's bills for college. I also think it's time that you and your daughter sit down and discuss the insurance and get that moved over to your account because if he gets ticked enough w/her and her attitude, he's going to cut her off on insurance. Unfortunately, you don't have anything legally in place, therefore, he knows he's not legally obligated to pay her bills. Yes, it would be nice if he would man up and be a dad and do the right thing...but it's not going to happen unless something is put in place legally. I suspect he's already checked this out w/his father. I think we've discussed this same issue previously on another one of your threads when you had a $125 bill come in.
On the other situation, yes, he feels like he's the victim in everything because of the way the girls have behaved around him lately. He thinks that you've encouraged them to be like that...but we know you haven't. So, instead of buying into his poor me BS, don't get into it w/him. All you are doing is providing more justification for him to not come there or provide any type of support to his oldest daughter. Yes, you made your point...but he's not listening because it's the same type of issues that you've attempted to tell him in the past. Your "discussions" w/him are the just about the same 85% of the time. It's time to change up and not reply in a reactive way in the future. There has to be a way to work this stuff out and I'm going to think on it for a while.
In the future, if you are anxious and need assistance rather quickly, you have my number, just call me.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
