I know that this text means he is spinning a bit. And, that's a good thing! It means I'm getting better because, it's about time HE spins about costs like college and not just me. And, his stuff about parenting means he, in his sick mind, is feeling guilty and awful about his relationship with the girls.
What I need to do: I need to stop allowing HIS spinning to spin me. I was OK until I received this text. I'm going to go back to ok. I'm going to go back to finishing my story I'm writing and feed D11 dinner.
I replied and I think I set my boundaries well. I don't think I came off as angry or emotional. I'm proud of that. I'm sick of him playing the victim card and I think I made my point.
"Hey Smokey, you dumbA$$, YOU AREN'T the VICTIM!! Our KIDS ARE the victims here!"
Whether he heard me or not, that's his problem. I told him how I feel. Take it or leave it. And, I told him that he had a right to his opinion.
I know I probably shouldn't have responded at all, but he contacts me so infrequently that I felt I needed to, at least, acknowledge this text--especially since it was about the kids.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
