W said its over - Said I can't change her mind

[Duds3]

After reading the whole thread, I mostly agree with this^^. The hesitation I feel is b/c I think you have a problem you are glossing over, and you'll probably have it again in your next R if you don't work on it.

You sound controlling and you DID get "physical" with her, at least twice. You don't have to slug a woman in the face to be abusive. If you use your strength to constrain her, it's NOT okay.

I think the one thing people would say about our relationship is never person was controlling. Our friends have said to both of us one thing y'all do really well is allow each other to come and go and never have any jealousy over it. In my first M, I would tell my W what I was going to do. I never did this in my current M, I always ASKED if she was cool with it. We never had an issue of one of us trying to control the other person. My W is very good making plans. She would ask my schedule, look at hers and then make the plans for holidays and vacations. I never objected. I never had an issue with her making the plans and matte of fact I never asked to change any of them. In my first M, I would haven't been so willingly. I would like to think I learned from that mistake and I would venture to say my current W would say I was never controlling of her plans or wants.