W said its over - Said I can't change her mind

[Duds3]

After reading the whole thread, I mostly agree with this^^. The hesitation I feel is b/c I think you have a problem you are glossing over, and you'll probably have it again in your next R if you don't work on it.

You sound controlling and you DID get "physical" with her, at least twice. You don't have to slug a woman in the face to be abusive. If you use your strength to constrain her, it's NOT okay.

I think the one thing people would say about our R is we both never hand an issue doing things on our own. We never had arguments about one person doing things separately. She never tried to control my moves or wants, and I never did to her either. Our friends have made mention before to both of us about us having such a great attitudes about letting the other person come and go freely. In my first M I would tell my W what I was going to do. I learned quickly not to do that in my current M. I always ASKED my W if this was cool with her. We never had a problem with someone being controlling.