I love her... but she doesn't - Desperate

[Upwards]

I feel your pain - its so very hard to let go of the urge to force your spouse to see what you see, to get them to change their mind, not to beg or plead with them to try & work on the marriage... It does take time and some practise but the more you can detach the better as I realised quite quickly that the more I tried to make my H see the more it pushed him away.

I'm currently doing a 12 step program to help me focus on myself and also get my head around whats happened in the past few months - its really helped. Also a book called "codependant no more - melodie beatie" is really good too.

Good luck, keep taking small steps forwards & be kind to yourself.