Hi I'm 6 months in. H works away 80% of the time but when home over the summer was very depressed but wouldn't say why-I tried to cheer him up and get him to seek help but ended up getting frustrated (especially as he was refusing sex). In Oct he just didn't come home. Got himself a flat 300 miles away. Been back for weekends at first (on sofa) but since a breakdown that made him leave on Xmas day, he has only been to see the kids for a few hours every couple of weeks. We still haven't told them he's left.
He had an awful childhood and admits feeling as bad as when he was being abused and beaten. He doesn't know who he is and says he always did what I wanted. He thinks I don't listen and isn't connected to me.
I've done all of the begging and pleading wrong. He needs space to find himself and I have only just started my 180. Hope it helps. We were enjoying life together until last July so I'm still in shock and despite trying to GAL I still have a pain in the pit of my stomach X W 36 H 37 M 10 T 18 S14 D10 S6 BD Oct 13 never came home OW probable
