A quick fly-by as I am on roation in taking care of my 86-year old grandmother who had a really bad fall a while ago.
"It's clear to me this morning that I have too much anger right now to have a good conversation with you and the kids about the divorce. Let's table this conversation until a later time and if we can't get to a point of peace, let's do it separately. This is not something to which I want to expose the kids."
I smiled quietly at this text from your H. It is patently clear that H is very flummoxed by your text drawing the line in going to the game with him. He sees your quiet strength, sees that you will not be sucked into his play in playing "happy families" for public consumption, and senses a shift in you.
So he's backing away to re-group and figure out a different way to needle you and push your buttons to suit his self-serving needs.
Be on high alert for the next charge coming straight at you right out of his foxhole. Sit still and monitor H form afar.
