IT is a lot about finding you, finding your faults, etc. Being you....but as exampled on a lot of people's post on here, many people lose themselves to a codependent marriage. So once the marriage falls apart they need to refind what they were originally, Setting the tone for an interdependent marriage.
Now us vets....we push you a little bit farther. Like we both agree you are kind of an introvert who likes just kicking around house taking care of the kids and such. That isn't a bad thing....But I have also pushed you a little bit to be more social. Not because I want you to change, but more to open your eyes to something. Some times the changes is embraced...sometimes not, but the key is you worked on something new. Opened and closed a potential horizon.
Now most of my posting is in the midlife crisis board. There it goes even further (MLC can take years) as we push into defining values and principles of an individual. Now all the posters I have known through the years on that board....almost all of them come out of it a changed person. How they live and see life has changed dramatically. The focus is on being the person you want to be....and working towards being better at it everyday.
