melissa - standing up for me

[25yearsmlc]

Could we start a thread for the things the WAS says that are ridiculous?

Mine
H..I am not having an affair. I decided 2 weeks ago the marriage was over.
M But I didnot know .
H. I hadn't told you but it was over so this is not an affair.

Me:Trying to come to terms with the first comment. Are you planning to see other women as well as the OW?
H: ( shocked tone) don't be ridiculous I am not like that!
M: (pinched self to test for reality)

Melissa I remember your first posts.. you have come so far..what an inspiration. ?.

Ah but there IS such a thread (who says we can't make another updated one?)

The "Wacky things MLCers/WASs say, existed in "back in MY DAY"...and might be around.

But I recall a few to start with (in addition to your h's, which makes NO sense to me, even for a WAH, which is saying a lot)

So in addition to the previously mentioned

"of course I tell my h when I sleep with OMs. IF you don't have honesty in a marriage, how are you going to have TRUST???" (SIDENOTE: when she said that, we were in a restaurant and 'catching up', and I literally took out a piece of paper to write it down. She asked me why and I said "it's hilarious". She seemed miffed...

In contrast to what YOUR h said about Affairs, (geez, it's there's NO consensus with the MLC/WAS).

B/c at least 3-4 said things like"

"It's Not an affair if I tell you about it",

and "I had already moved out when you found out about OP..."

"If you had compromised even a little, maybe we wouldn't have had to Divorce...

(The LBS h "refused to compromise" b/c the w was "still confused" after nearly a year long A, and wanted to stay in the house and Not seeing OM... EXCEPT "when [she] just HAD to"....

Hmmm, I forgot how to start a new thread. Dang it has been awhile...

Can someone do that and insert these contributions as I go back to find the 100s we had before, AND welcome more from the LBSers.

I found it VERY comforting to laugh and know that others were "with" me.

I hope that doesn't mean "misery loves company," so much as "thank God I'm not alone in this".

I also knew the potential of someone else's experience or wisdom helping, was crucial.