Unlearning Conflict Avoidance - 9

[MrBond]

"Yes, the kids need to know, but on my schedule, and not my W's."

Really? And when do you plan to tell your W that? I just see you posting what you plan to do, etc. But I don't see you actually doing anything. Then when your W goes and tells your D that you're divorcing, you're going to come on these boards and complain about it. It's YOUR responsibility to take action on this. You're extremely passive aggressive about all this.

"D wants to go see American Hustle with me, so that is good. "

It is good. HOWEVER, you are the one who should be suggesting these things. You keep saying that you want a 'plan' for a good M, but you don't even know how to invite your D to something. You have to work on your PERSONAL relationship skills. THAT is the key to a good relationship.

I don't know what you've done to do that all this time. Yes, going out with friends is great, HOWEVER you still can't hug your daughter.

Be spontaneous! Be brave!