I say good for you TipAnna!! I think not participating in the dinner with his dad, is good. I mean who benefits from you going. I would imagine it could be uncomfortable for all. I don't think you would have fun or be happy. Instead you are going to do something that will be fun for you, that sounds great!

Me:36
Her:35
together 11yrs
M 7 1/2yrs
lived together 10yrs
2dogs 2cats
Mortgage on a house

bomb dropped 01/12/14
Separate bedrooms/W stays here some nights
I want to stay married